David was Solomon’s chief role model, and here’s what he taught his son.
“Get wisdom; get insight;
Do not forget, and do not turn away from the words of my mouth.
Do not forsake her, and she will keep you;
Love her, and she will guard you.
The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom,
And whatever you get, get insight.
Prize her highly, and she will exalt you;
She will honor you if you embrace her.
She will place on your head a graceful garland;
She will bestow on you a beautiful crown” (Prov 4:5-9, ESV).
David’s instruction is not all that complicated. I would paraphrase it like this:
Prov 4:5: Get wisdom!
Prov 4:6: It will guard you from trouble.
Prov 4:7: I mean it; get wisdom! Do whatever it takes!
Prov 4:8-9: You’ll be respected and honored by everyone who knows you.
It sounds like great advice for children like little Solomon who don’t carry much life baggage yet, but how can it help those who feel stuck? What would it look like to get wisdom at any cost? Jesus compares the Kingdom of Heaven to a treasure hidden in a field. A man who finds it “goes and sells all that he has and buys that field” (Matt 13:44). 
Malcolm X believed human rights to be worth acquiring “by any means necessary.” Solomon’s approach to wisdom is similar (without implying any violence, of course). What resources are available to you? Proverbs 4:5-9 doesn’t give many specifics, but here are some ideas from elsewhere in the Bible:
- Fear the Lord (Prov 1:7). Take your need to him. Wisdom (and change) always begins here.
- Hope it can change (1 Peter 1:3). Such hope is always a choice. You’re not a victim to your despair.
- Resolve to pay any cost (Prov 23:23). Do you want it to change? Are you willing to risk anything? Will you give all you have to find wisdom, seek help, and make the necessary changes?
- Immerse yourself in Scripture (Ps 1:1-3). What matters most is what God has to say to you. Search the Bible for answers to your questions. Learn how to study it. What time of day are you at your best? Give the Lord that time, and develop the habit of reading and studying his Word.
- Engage in a community of wisdom (Heb 10:24-25). Find a good church where the Bible is taught and Jesus’ life, death, resurrection, and rescue for sinners are central. Find a mature mentor who can help you to connect the Word of God to your life.
- Practice wisdom (Phil 4:9). Remember that wisdom is not just about thinking godly thoughts. It’s about living godly lives. Talk to people about what you’re learning. Ask others what they’re learning. Spend time with non-Christians and look for ways to share about Christ. As you practice these things, write down any lessons or questions that arise, and discuss them with your church or your mentor.
- Do whatever it takes (2 Cor 6:1-2). What other ideas do you have? As Derek Kidner writes, “What it takes is not brains or opportunity, but decision. Do you want it? Come and get it.”[1]
